what is forgiveness?

Saying:
"it's okay"
"it doesn't matter"
"it's no big deal"
is not forgiveness.

Ignoring
Denying
Pretending
"Forgetting"
is not forgiveness.

All too often,
in the name of being a Christian,
I have been guilty of indulging in one of the above lies.
As Christians we are supposed
 "to keep the peace", right?
The problem is,
I often was not at peace.

Forgiveness is acknowledging that there is a problem.
Forgiveness is facing the fact that someone was wronged.
Forgiveness is allowing myself to acknowledge the hurt.
Forgiveness is letting go of the offence.

Forgiveness is necessary.
Forgiveness is freeing.
Forgiveness is healing.