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"what happened?"

Those may be the two most unwelcome words ever spoken to someone who is grieving. 
Please, trust me on this. 
Especially early on.

And strongly consider this advice: 
if an explaination isn't offered, 
without your asking the question, leave it unasked. 

Especially if the grieving stems from an unexpected death.

The pain, confusion and disorientation of loss is more than enough to deal with. 
Having to explain what you don't understand only adds to that.
Allow the fact that life is forever changed for those still living to be enough knowledge.

And if at some point the one grieving wants to talk-
listen, 
without interrupting.